A 3 Step Plan To Stop Obsessive Thoughts And Panic

May 122010

Have you ever wondered what the root cause of all your panic and anxiety truly is? Well, in my opinion, it’s very likely to be the obsessive thoughts you experience. These obsessive thoughts are like snowballs that gather momentum and size and turn into the problems your anxiety causes you.

You might be thinking that this isn’t how anxiety works with you and that obsessive thoughts aren’t to blame, and if that’s the situation I’d like you to begin paying attention to your own anxiety and to what you’re feeling and thinking right before it gets out of control.

You’ll be surprised what you discover, because obsessive thoughts are at the heart of anxiety and panic in EVERYONE. I know this from talking and working with literally THOUSANDS of people who are just like you, and who are just like I was when obsessive thoughts were causing my own anxiety for 17 years.

Unfortunately, when you have an anxiety disorder, it’s impossible to drop a thought automatically like most other people can. So the solution to this problem is finding ways to consciously drop a thought before it becomes harmful – before it becomes OBSESSIVE.

So I’m gonna share a quick 3 step system you can start using TODAY anytime you have a harmful or negative thought that you need to stop before it becomes obsessive and causes you real problems. And here are the 3 steps:

Step One is to retrain your brain, ASAP. You need to get it to a place where it can spot a negative or potentially damaging thought the moment that it starts. This includes thoughts that start out very small and seem to be no problem at all. These small thoughts can grow into large ones that cause serious problems, so these need to be treated just as the obviously terrible thoughts are treated.

Step two is to learn a technique that will allow you to stop these unwanted thoughts, and the one I suggest is to simply use other thoughts to overpower the original one. This makes sense, because the only thing that can ever stop one thought is another thought. The key here is to make this second thought a positive one. Play around with thoughts – use anything that works and overpowers that original and unpleasant thought.

Step #3: Most harmful thoughts start when you’re daydreaming or when your mind is wandering. And these harmful thoughts are a HABIT. That’s why they happen so easily and sneak up on you, because you’ve trained your mind to slip into a negative autopilot. The only way to undo this is to retrain your mind, and you do that by thinking about nice things as often as you can, even if you have to use fantasies or old memories to do it. Think of it like creating a new default setting for your mind.

I firmly believe that if you can use and stick to these 3 steps that your anxiety and panic and obsessive thoughts will be in better shape than they’ve been for many years.

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How To Cure Panic Attacks While You Sleep

May 112010

When you want to cure panic attacks, one of the best things you can do is improve the quality of sleep you’re getting, and here are three good ways to achieve that.

***Method #1. No More Negative Thinking In The Bedroom***

More worry and anxiety happens when you’re lying awake in bed than at any other time of the day. That’s pretty incredible when you consider it’s the place where we should be most relaxed!

You’ll probably find that this problem is at its worst at 3 particular times: when you’re lying awake immediately after you go to bed, in the middle of the night after you’ve woken up, and possibly in the morning too, when you’ve woken up but you haven’t got out of bed yet.

To stop these situations, you need to prevent as much of your “worrying in bed” time as you can. The simplest one to solve is the one where you’re lying in bed in the morning after you’ve awoken. All you need to do is get up as soon as you wake up!

This is a very simple idea, but it’s amazing how much anxiety this will remove from the start of your day. Getting up before your mind has a chance to remember all the things it could be anxious about will give you a better start to the day than you’ve had in a long time.

As for the times when you wake up during the night and start to worry/panic well, this one’s slightly trickier. But there are things you can do! First of all, if you’re awake longer than a few minutes and you feel your anxiety increasing, get up out of bed. Being in bed in the silence will just make any anxiety you feel seem even worse.

Have a warm shower or wash your face with warm water, potter around for 10 minutes doing something that doesn’t need much focus (a bit of tidying, listening to some soft music, skim-reading a magazine etc.), and then go back to bed. The key here is to recreate a “natural” going-to-bed routine.

So instead of lying awake for hours you get up for a bit, and then finally when you return to bed you treat it as if you’re going to bed for the first time. This is much more natural for your body to accept than it is to lie there for hours when you can’t sleep. It’s far more likely that you’ll get back to sleep doing this than simply lying there.

The second sleeping mistake to eliminate to help cure your panic attacks is to allow no more constantly-changing schedules.

Sleeping problems of all kinds, not just those that are related to panic and anxiety disorders, can be eased by making sure you stick to the same routine every single day.

And yes, by doing nothing more than going to bed and getting up at the same times, every single day, your internal clock will go back to normal and your sleeping cannot fail to improve. You’ll also correct any problems with things like irregular hormone release, which can be affected by poor sleep habits.

I bet you know that feeling that you’re totally burnt out, right? Well, that is frequently a result of your adrenal glands being out of whack. One of the few ways to correct a problem like this is to get some good sleeping habits sorted out.

Starting from right now, then, begin going to bed every night as close to the same time as possible. And, of course, get up at the same time each morning too. Just don’t undo all your hard work by sleeping in late on the weekends and losing your hard-earned new routine!

***Method #3. No More Stimulants Before Bedtime***

A lot of the problems that you currently have with your sleep could be to do with what you do right before you go to bed. Fast-paced TV, loud music, heavy reading, and playing video games are all very bad ideas in the last hour or two before you try to sleep.

So something you should try to do right now is to totally stop anything that stimulates you in the final hours before bed time. Make this a part of a new routine you stick to before bed, where you try to slow things down.

Go out of your way to slow everything down for the last 60 minutes before heading off to bed. If you have a favourite bedtime drink, this is the time for it. If it’s hot outside, maybe drink it in the fresh air. If it’s cold outside, curl up and drink it inside. But the bottom line is, relax.

It may sound a bit obvious to give this kind of advice, but how many of us really give ourselves time like this? Even those of us who do don’t do it enough.

If you’re a bath-taker, then whenever you can take one right before you get into bed. Make it warm, but never too hot. A warm bath has been proven in many studies to put the body in just the right state for great quality sleep. So make this slow winding-down hour a new part of your pre-bed routine. It can work unbelievably well when you’re not sleeping.

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Cure Panic Attacks In Your Sleep

May 112010

When you want to cure panic attacks, one of the best things you can do is improve the quality of sleep you’re getting, and here are 3 good ways to achieve that.

The first way to get better sleep is to stop all negative thinking while you’re in bed.

You experience far more worrying and anxious thoughts when you’re awake in bed than you do in any other situation. That’s a strange situation to be in when you think that your bedroom should be the place where you are most relaxed.

This problem probably affects you at night when you’re lying awake trying to sleep, during the night when you wake up, and in the morning when you’re awake but not up yet.

To overcome these situations, you need to prevent as much of your “worrying in bed” time as you can. The simplest one to solve is the one where you’re lying in bed in the morning after you’ve awoken. All you need to do is get up as soon as you wake up!

I know this seems like an ultra simplistic answer, but you will be astounded how much worrying this cuts from your life.

Okay, now to stop those occasions when you worry in the middle of the night after waking up. I’ll admit, this one’s slightly tricky to solve, but there are solid methods you can use. Right away I should tell you that if you’re ever awake for more than a few minutes, get up straight away. Staying in bed won’t solve anything, and will probably triple your anxiety.

While you’re up, maybe it would be good to have a shower or a bath – whichever you find more calming. Or just spend some time doing something that relaxes you, even if it’s just sitting down in the living room with a warm drink. After your quick relaxation period, go back to bed. By getting up and waiting a while before going back to bed, it’s all much more natural and like the original time you went to bed.

By getting up when you’re awake, and going back to bed in this way after you’ve been doing something for a while, it’s much more like you’re going to bed for the first time. This is far more natural for your body, and you’re going to be able to get back to sleep much more quickly than if you’d just remained in bed the whole time.

***Method #2. No More Ever-Changing Schedules***

By sticking to the same routines and times, you’re sleeping will improve, whatever the cause of your sleeping problems.

And yes, by doing nothing more than going to bed and getting up at the same times, every single day, your internal clock will return to normal and your sleeping cannot fail to improve. You’ll also correct any problems with things like irregular hormone release, which can be affected by bad sleep habits.

Do you ever feel burnt out? In lots of cases, that will be because your adrenal glands are active at times when they shouldn’t be, and this is often caused by irregular sleeping cycles. If you can get your sleeping habits into a predictable routine, problems like this will often disappear all on their own.

So do your best to go to bed each night at the same time, and get up each morning at the same time too. When you start out doing this, you may go through a couple of tough days while you get back into the correct routine, but it will be worth it. And also beware of sleeping in late on weekends, or days when you don’t have to be up early. All your hard work can be undone with a couple of late lie-ins!

Right, now the third and final way to get better sleep, and this one is all about stopping all stimulants in the lead up to bedtime.

A lot of the problems that you currently have with your sleep could be to do with what you do right before you go to bed. Fast-paced TV, loud music, heavy reading, and playing video games are all really bad ideas in the last hour or two before you try to sleep.

What I did, and what I suggest you start doing too from today onwards, is to stop doing anything stimulating for an hour before your bedtime. Couple this with a brand new routine that you stick to before you retire, full of things that you know will relax you.

Consciously begin to ease back on everything for the last hour before you go to bed. Stroll around like you’re on vacation. If you like to have a bedtime drink of some kind then sip it outside if it’s a nice night and enjoy the fresh air. If it’s too cold outside, curl up on the couch and relax for 20 minutes while you enjoy your drink.

It may sound a bit obvious to give this kind of advice, but how many of us really give ourselves time like this? Even those of us who do don’t do it enough.

If you like warm baths then incorporate that into your routine. Warm baths are known to promote deep and relaxing sleep, which is just the kind of sleep that cures panic attacks and fights off panic generally. A warm bath will be an excellent addition to your new “calm down” hour before bed.

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Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back?

May 102010

Here’s a great article about how to getting your ex girlfriend back.
If you’re wondering about getting your ex girlfriend back, read this article. It outlines tips to follow to make it easier to have her back again. It recommends you give yourself time after the break up to process things. This also will let her know that you’re strong and won’t fall apart when she’s not around. Getting your ex girlfriend back explains that a confident, alpha male is sexy. It also cautions against letting your appearance take a dive, because she’s not going to find that attractive. You don’t have to be afraid of flirting with other girls, either; you need to let her know she’s not the be all and end all in your life.

Win Husband Back

May 102010

Here’s a great article about how to win husband back. If you want to win husband back, this article has some steps you should follow. The first piece of advice is to focus on only what you can control, which will help empower you during this traumatic time in your life. It advises against being needy, as that will definitely not help you win your husband back. It also recommends you try to recall the beginning of your romance with your husband. Many times the daily stressors of life makes people forget why they fell in love in the first place. Win husband back also mentions the effort you must make to let your husband know you’re trying to change for the better.

Breaking Up Advice

May 102010

Here’s a great article about breaking up advice. This article offers breaking up advice on how to get over the pain of a ruined relationship. It explains that anger, pain and feeling lost are normal. It
goes on to give 7 bits of breaking up advice that will help with these feelings, including being honest with yourself if the breakup
was for the best, forcing yourself to go about your daily business, exercising to make yourself feel better, taking up a new hobby, and
getting out and meeting new people. Finally, the article concludes by advising that you should work on your future rather than
dwelling on the past.

How To Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back?

May 102010

Here’s a great article about how to win your ex girlfriend back. This article explains what to do if you want to win your ex girlfriend back. It suggests that you start by deciding what the reason you broke up was and if it is something that can be worked out or not. It explains that some differences will cause problems even if you get back together, so no matter how much you think ‘I still love my ex girlfriend’ they will lead to more pain if you get back together. On the other hand, if the differences are
merely external circumstances or a misunderstanding you may have some luck when you try to win your ex girlfriend back. It goes on to
suggest communication techniques that will help you win your ex girlfriend back.

How to get my ex girlfriend back

May 102010

If you want to know “How to get back my girlfriend” – a huge step in the right direction is achieving a better understanding of how the female mind works. Have you ever wondered why women seems to be so extremely attracted to some men, and don’t even recognize others? I will now give you some important insight in to the secret world of female psychology and attraction. This will help you both with how to get back your girlfriend, and also to develop a better understanding of the mysteries of the female mind, than most men will ever achieve.

Humans are not attracted to each other by accident – evolution is not based on chance! A lot of psychological factors determine how and with whom humans are attracted.

An important factor in understanding attraction is accepting that female attraction differs from men’s in many ways. Have you ever seen those couples where the woman is strikingly beautiful and the man appears, at least for an untrained pair of eyes to be.. Well, unattractive? Ever wondered why that is?

The secret is one of the important differences between male and female attraction. Women are mostly attracted to male behavior, while men, as we know, are generally, most attracted to a women’s physical attributes. The apparently unattractive man with the much more attractive girlfriend in his knee, consciously, or for the most part unconsciously, knows how to behave around women. And that, my friend, is what separates the boys from the MEN!

That fact that you read this tells me a few things about you: you probably know a good deal about how to behave around women- since you’ve actually had a girlfriend, and now want to know how to win her back. Most importantly, it tells me that you are willing to do something to get back your ex. And that’s super!

The fact that you where able to attract your ex girlfriend is not necessarily a proof of your conscious skills to attract women, in most cases it’s a sign of something unconscious.

When you where able to attract her- why weren’t you able to keep her, you might ask. And this is where most men fail: when it comes to keeping a girlfriend, and to keep the attraction going in long-term relationships.

Most men are really different persons in a relationship, and as single. When single they are presenting them self as the best they can be. Dressing up nice, having fun with their friends, they are passionate about their life, and have their own things going. But what happens in a long-term relationship? A lot of the traits that once had your girlfriend attracted to you like a magnet suddenly vanish! What are these unattractive traits that replace the attractive? The most important one: Insecurity! Women are NOT at all attracted to insecure men! Think about it: When the two of you first got together, where you an insecure man? Always asking for her opinion on everything from what shirt you should wear, what you should do, where you should go, what you should eat, how god you where in bed? Where you jealous – asking her about other men? I don’t think so!

When entering a relationship most people are self-dependent individuals with a lot to offer their new girlfriend. The new couple is two individuals with their own life, their passions, dreams and friends. Now, it’s obviously awesome to become a twosome- but it’s so easy to fall in to the habit of using the other person as a crutch. As the relationship goes on, many men start acting like insecure, obedient and lovesick puppies- and this will eventually drive the woman away, and make her lose the attraction!

So, for you to be able to answer the question “How to get back my girlfriend?” -It’s time to reflect on your past behavior. Find out if you, like so many men before you, are guilty of some of these “attraction- killers”, and if it might have had something to do with the breakup. And most importantly: Do something about it! Get back to that confident, active and passionate person both you and I know you can be! Show her what she is missing out on! Before you know it, she will be begging you to take her back!

About the Author:

Martha Johansen is a recognized expert when it comes to How to get my ex girlfriend back And if that’s what you want – You better take a look at this great website: http://www.howtogetbackmygirlfriend.com

Dealing With A Break Up

May 102010

Here’s a great article about dealing with a break up.
You need to learn the myths about dealing with a break up, and this article will teach them to you. One of the worst things you can do is jump right into another relationship. You might think you’re ready and that it will ease the pain, but it won’t. It’s just going to complicate things and it’s not fair to the new love interest. This article will also teach you what not to do when it comes to your ex. Do not try to resurrect the failed relationship right away; you need to understand what happened that made it fail in the first place. Read this article for more myths about dealing with a break up that you might not know.

How to get back your girlfriend

May 102010

If you would like to know “How to get back your girlfriend” – a giant step in the right direction is a better understanding of how the female mind works. Have you ever wondered why women seems to be so attracted to some men, and don’t even recognize others? I will now give you some insight in to the secret world of female psychology and attraction. This will not only help you to with how to get back your girlfriend, but also to develop a better understanding of the mysteries of the female mind, than most men will ever achieve.

Humans are not attracted to each other by accident – evolution is not based on chance! A lot of psychological factors determine how and with whom humans are attracted.

An important step to understanding attraction is accepting that female attraction differs from men’s in many ways. Ever seen those couples where the woman is strikingly beautiful and the man appears, at least for an untrained set of eyes to be.. Well, unattractive? Ever wondered why that is?

The secret is one of the important differences between male and female attraction. Women are mostly attracted to male behavior, while men, as we know, are generally, most attracted to a women’s physical attributes. The apparently unattractive man with the much more attractive girlfriend in his knee, consciously, or for the most part unconsciously, knows how to behave around women. And that, my friend, is what separates the boys from the MEN!

That fact that you read this tells me a few things about you! You probably know something about how to behave around women- since you’ve had a girlfriend, and now want to know how to win her back. And most importantly, it tells me that you are willing to do something to get back your ex. And that’s great!

The fact that you where able to attract your ex girlfriend in the first place is sadly not a proof of your conscious skills to attract the opposite sex, in most cases it’s a sign of something unconscious on your part.

You where able to attract her – then why weren’t you able to keep her, you might ask. Well, this is where most men fail: when it comes to keeping a woman, and to keep the attraction going in a long-term relationship.

Most men are really different persons in a relationship, and as single. When single they are presenting them self as the best they can be. Dressing up nice, having fun with their friends, they are passionate about their life, and have their own things going. But what happens in a long-term relationship? A lot of the traits that once had your girlfriend attracted to you like a magnet suddenly vanish! What are these unattractive traits that replace the attractive? The most important one: Insecurity! Women are NOT at all attracted to insecure men! Think about it: When the two of you first got together, where you an insecure man? Always asking for her opinion on everything from what shirt you should wear, what you should do, where you should go, what you should eat, how god you where in bed? Where you jealous – asking her about other men? I don’t think so!

When getting in to a relationship most people are self-dependent individuals with a lot to offer their new girlfriend. The new couple is two individuals with their own life, passions, dreams and friends. It’s obviously fantastic to become a twosome- but it’s so darn easy to fall in to the habit of using the other person as a crutch. As the relationship goes on, many men start acting like insecure, obedient and lovesick puppies- and this will eventually drive the woman away, and make her lose attraction!

So, for you to be able to answer the question “How to get back your girlfriend?” -It’s time to reflect on your past behavior. Find out if you, like so many men before you, are guilty of some of these “attraction- killers”, and if it might have had something to do with the breakup. And most importantly: Do something about it! Get back to that confident, active and passionate person both you and I know you can be! Show her what she is missing out on! Before you know it, she will be begging you to take her back!

About the Author:

Martha Johansen is a recognized expert when it comes to relationship advise and How to get back your girlfriend And if thats what you need – Take a looka at this great website: http://www.howtogetbackmygirlfriend.com